Wedding Registry....Ugh!

Ms. Manners says registering might be pretty common, however, not so polite. With that said, it is the custom to find several of your favorite stores, retrieve a scan gun and a registry list, and walk around like a crazy person, looking for UPC codes, wondering if you really need to register for a garlic roaster. On the other hand, I have several friends who, after years of living together, chose not to register and received 20 silver frames all engraved with their names and wedding date still sitting in boxes. Needless to say, we chose to register.

Here is the system, you want to register pretty early, right after the engagement. In some families it is customary to give engagement gifts, so it is best to be prepared. At the very least, the registry should be completed before you send out the save the dates which will include your wedding website. Your registries should only be found on your website or go through word of mouth.
NEVER, I repeat NEVER, should they be found in your wedding invitations. Let's meet Ms. Manners half way!
After years of talking to brides and seeing my friends register, registered myself, and vetted all these lovely stores, I have compiled a list of my top picks. I based my top picks on quality over quantity, Brandt and I registered together, insured the store had a good return policy, and thought about the affordability of my guests. While I love all of these stores, it is only appropriate to choose two or three. Who knew registering would be so taxing?



Top Picks:
1. Macy's - so easy for guests who live in smaller towns and smaller budgets. (Dillard' too)
2. Pottery Barn
3. William-Sonoma
4. Sur La Table - I wish my kitchen was that store.
5. Neiman Marcus - Did I mention I was from Dallas?
6. Fair Trade Global Exchange - Online - http://www.globalexchangestore.org/ - "Go green, whenever possible" is the Austin motto.
7. Crate and Barrel
8, Sears - Fore the groom, of course and very affordable.
9. The Honeymoon - Online - http://www.thehoneymoon.com/
10. Pampered chef

Not Your Mother's Ceremony Music

There is a trend of more and more weddings becoming secular in nature. People are moving their ceremonies to the outdoors, foreign destinations, or glorious, landscaped backyards. Whatever the reason, not all of us are committed to the traditional classical music that our mothers and grandmothers swooned over. Me, in particular, as I have attended thousands of weddings and heard Pachelbel's Cannon and Dodi Li so many times I immediately feel I am at work with the first few notes of many of the classical favorites. Not only that, but over the years, I absolutely loved creating one-of-a-kind ceremony music for each couple who wanted their ceremony to be truly theirs. It was an honor. While I could add hundreds of songs these are some of the top picks from our DJ staff. And yes, many of these songs will be included in my own ceremony.

Non-Traditional Classical Wedding Music

1. Butterfly's Day Out or Appalachian Waltz by Yo-Yo-Ma. (I cannot say enough good things about Yo-Yo-Ma)
2. La Valse d'Amelie From the Amelie movie soundtrack
3. Sarah Brightman
4. Yanni
5. Andrea Bocelli
6. Check out Cirque du Soleil music. Awesome.
7. Enigmatic: The String Quartet Tribute To Radiohead
8. Check out the Vitamin String Quartet's tribute to Coldplay, Tool, Bruce Springsteen, etc. They have over a dozen CD Tributes to a variety of bands.
9. Time Four Three is an amazing band. (garage style classical music)
10. For those beach weddings, steel drum classical music can add an interesting flare.



Non-Traditonal Contemporary Music

1. Only Time - Enya
2. Over the Rainbow - Israel Kamakawiwoʻole (maybe a bit overdone)
3. Moon River - Henry Mancini
4. I'm Feeling Good - Nina Simone
5. Here Comes My Girl - Tom Petty & the Heartbreakers (Bride's Processional)
6. Here Comes the Sun - Beatles (Lots of Beatles tunes would work)
7. Do you Realize - The Flaming Lips (What is the Light is also great)
8. Bitter Sweet Symphony - The Verve
9. Check out Van Morrison, Ingrid Michaelson, Motown's Greatest Hits
10. Sideways - Citizen Cope
11. Green is the Color - Pink Floyd (Bride's Processional)
12. Question - Old 97's
13. Closer - Joshua Radin (lots of others songs by Joshua Radin would work as well)
14. Dream - Pricilla Ahn
15. How Sweet it is and Something in the Way She Moves - James Taylor
16. Soft and Sweet - Neutral Milk Hotel
17. Say Yes - Elliott Smith
18: She - Elvis Costello
19. Maybe, I am Amazed and Amazing Life - Jem
20. Hallelujah - Leonard Cohen



Non-Traditional Recessional Songs

1. Stuck in the Middle with You - Bob Dylan
2. I Feel Good - James Brown
3. Wonderful World - Ramones
4. Hotel Yorba - White Stripes
5. It's the End of the World - REM
6. Wouldn't it Be Nice - The Beach Boys
7. Let My Love Open the Door - Pete Townsend
8. Heavenly Day - Patti Griffin
9. Signed, Sealed, and Delivered by Stevie Wonder and other Motown and Jazz Standard songs
10. Just Like Heaven - The Cure
11. Kiss - Prince
12. The Way you Make Me Feel - Michael Jackson

Wanna Dance?

As I am getting ready to DJ an amazing wedding this Friday, always taking sales calls, and, of course,answering slews of questions regarding music and dancing, I thought I would post a few items to help couples blend their own tastes of music with a packed dance floor.


How do I know my DJ will play the music I want?

Honestly, after you choose your DJ and the agreement, you can only trust them. (The importance of hiring a great DJ versus a cheap DJ) I have a friend who is getting married in December and she absolutely, unequivocally did not want a DJ. A band wasn't an option for her either, she wanted her music, her way, and was terrified of a DJ being cheesy or not playing her music. She has since hired a fantastic DJ in Dallas at my encouragement. But this is what I am having her do, in order to assuage her concerns and it is what I am doing for my own wedding, because music is what I love.
She is creating a list of music she wants played. Each hour the DJ will play about 15 to 20 songs, so limit the song list to the hours needed. Here is her template she asked me to create for her including the ceremony:

Prelude music: lasts around 30 minutes: The DJ will play about 10 songs but will need about 15 songs in case the time line doesn't go according to plan. If you want classical music for your ceremony then keep with classical for the prelude.

Ceremony music:
1. A song for escorting the mothers and grandmothers down the aisle.
2. A song for the Bridal Party
3. Processional ( a song for the Bride)
4. Unity Candle, Seven Blessing, Sand Ceremony, etc
5. Recessional (the entire wedding party leaving the ceremony)


Cocktail Music: While you are taking pictures with your bridal party and family, your guests will be listening to about 30 minutes of music while enjoying each other and scrumptious appetizers. The DJ will only play about 10 songs, but will again need about 15 in case your photographer wants you a bit longer. Cocktail and dinner music should be fun and upbeat (no classical), while allowing your guests the opportunity to speak clearly. The ceremony, cocktail, and dinner music are all great places to strategically place your own tunes that might fall flat on your dance floor. Ideas are: classic jazz such as Frank Sinatra, Texas Country Music, Alternative, some of your favorite underground indie rock, or even a mix of favorites from the Rolling Stones or the Doors, whatever your fancy.

Dinner Music: You will need about 25 to 30 songs for your dinner music. Dinner will last approximately an hour, and you might only have time for 20 songs, but your DJ will need more, just in case!

Specialty Dances: (Tip: Stick to 2 no more than three of these, your guests don't care and won't be watching)
First Dance
Father/Daughter
Mother/Son
Wedding Party
Parents Dance

Dance Music: Your DJ will need about 20 songs per hour. However, I recommend giving your DJ a DO NOT PLAY LIST, and letting your guests request songs within reason. If the most important thing is that your guests dance, go ahead and give them those solid 70's and 80's jams.

Songs you might have fun choosing, but most of the time people let the DJ do this job: Cake Cutting, Bouquet, Garter, the Last Dance and the introduction song.

How do I get my guests to Dance?
1. If the bride and groom are on the dance floor, then the people will come.
2. Don't get a huge dance floor, make it smaller.
3. Invite the capacity of people permitted in your venue. The energy of a packed room helps.
4. Play the music appropriate to your crowd. e.g. I love Texas country music, but only three people will actually dance to that at our wedding, so I am sadly nixing local Austin music from our list of songs.
5. Meet with your DJ and go over icebreakers. You might be surprised to find there are many icebreakers without the cheese!
6. When your DJ says "This particular song may not get people dancing" Listen to him/her.

You can send this music to your DJ and they should be able to buy it or burn the music to lots of CDS and give it to them.

(Song suggestions coming soon)